Comments on: Why do the best writers have the most emotional intelligence? https://www.publicationcoach.com/emotional-intelligence/ & Gray-Grant Communications Tue, 29 Nov 2022 12:44:22 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.8.1 By: Daphne Gray-Grant https://www.publicationcoach.com/emotional-intelligence/#comment-6179 Sat, 29 Aug 2015 14:57:00 +0000 http://pubcoach2018.wpengine.com/?p=11553#comment-6179 In reply to Patricia.

Ah, Patricia — talent is so unimportant to writing. Some of the most successful writers have so little talent. (I put Stephen King into that category. This is not to slight him! He’s a hard worker and very determined.)

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By: Patricia https://www.publicationcoach.com/emotional-intelligence/#comment-6178 Sat, 29 Aug 2015 06:48:00 +0000 http://pubcoach2018.wpengine.com/?p=11553#comment-6178 Thank you, Daphne, for this reassurance. I was feeling discouraged because my writing seemed to turn out … well … crappy. I felt the talent just wasn’t there.
Then I read this post about emotional intelligence, and thought “Perhaps I can write okay after all, it just needs some good editing and polishing.” Now to find all your posts on editing!

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By: Daphne Gray-Grant https://www.publicationcoach.com/emotional-intelligence/#comment-6177 Wed, 26 Aug 2015 18:18:00 +0000 http://pubcoach2018.wpengine.com/?p=11553#comment-6177 In reply to KSW.

You’re welcome!

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By: Daphne Gray-Grant https://www.publicationcoach.com/emotional-intelligence/#comment-6176 Wed, 26 Aug 2015 18:12:00 +0000 http://pubcoach2018.wpengine.com/?p=11553#comment-6176 In reply to KSW.

I think the risk is only in academic writing. Most nonfiction readers prefer more empathetic writing, in my experience.

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By: KSW https://www.publicationcoach.com/emotional-intelligence/#comment-6175 Wed, 26 Aug 2015 17:13:00 +0000 http://pubcoach2018.wpengine.com/?p=11553#comment-6175 I write scientific papers; yet, I write to have my patient outcome data read by other readers in an empathic way. “patient’s experienced” versus “patient’s reported” for instance. This can be seen as risking objectivity in nonfiction/academic writing. Thank you for this very interesting post, DGG.

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By: KSW https://www.publicationcoach.com/emotional-intelligence/#comment-6174 Wed, 26 Aug 2015 17:02:00 +0000 http://pubcoach2018.wpengine.com/?p=11553#comment-6174 In reply to David Kimball.

Thank you for sharing. This was very thoughtful.

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By: Daphne Gray-Grant https://www.publicationcoach.com/emotional-intelligence/#comment-6173 Wed, 26 Aug 2015 15:15:00 +0000 http://pubcoach2018.wpengine.com/?p=11553#comment-6173 In reply to Michael F. Tevlin.

I know research shows that fiction READERS become more empathetic. It wouldn’t surprise me to learn that the same thing happens to writers, too.

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By: Daphne Gray-Grant https://www.publicationcoach.com/emotional-intelligence/#comment-6172 Wed, 26 Aug 2015 15:14:00 +0000 http://pubcoach2018.wpengine.com/?p=11553#comment-6172 In reply to David Kimball.

Yes, I liked Gardner’s book, too. You have a helpful and very succinct way of explaining your view of characterization, David. Thanks for sharing.

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By: Daphne Gray-Grant https://www.publicationcoach.com/emotional-intelligence/#comment-6171 Wed, 26 Aug 2015 15:13:00 +0000 http://pubcoach2018.wpengine.com/?p=11553#comment-6171 In reply to Mike Semeraro.

You make a really good point about the value of EI to sales, Mike. So many people think that being a good salesperson is about being a good “talker.” In fact, as you describe, it’s far more about being a good LISTENER! (And being a good listener is also an important skill for writers.)

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By: David Kimball https://www.publicationcoach.com/emotional-intelligence/#comment-6170 Wed, 26 Aug 2015 13:15:00 +0000 http://pubcoach2018.wpengine.com/?p=11553#comment-6170 I also read the book Emotional Intelligence by Goleman and loved it. (I also loved its predecessor “Frames of Mind: The Theory of Multiple Intelligences” by Howard Gardner.) After reading these and other books on empathy and EI, I developed my own definition of empathy: “To really understand what and why a person thinks and feels the way(s) that they do.”

This has helped me in my writing in that I realize that I need to help the reader understand what and why my characters think and feel rather than just tell them. While my words and expressions and metaphors can create a feeling (Sympathy), I neet to use the narrative arc to develop the understanding (Empathy) which then creates the resonance between the reader and characters for their actions (Compassion).

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